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The Unspoken Truth


Have you ever wanted to ask someone a question but didn't want to hear the answer? There are a few sayings about the truth, like, "the truth hurts," or "tell the truth and shame the devil," or "truth sits upon the lips of dying men," and "truth exists, only lies are invented," the list goes on and on.

So, why do we hide from the truth? In the movie A Few Good Men, I think Jack Nicholson summed it up with, "you can't handle the truth." The notion is that if we avoid or ignore something, the issue will go away, or it just doesn't exist. Others feel that if you turn a blind eye to the situation, it isn't there, or the problem will magically disappear.

People are often hesitant to go to the doctor or the dentist due to unwanted news. Amazingly enough, the news could result in nothing at all or possibly information that could eventually save their life if caught early. Mechanics are also avoided, especially at dealerships. Why do we avoid these people? Because the news that we receive from them will cause an inconvenience within our lives either physically, mentally, or financially.

How many people avoid conversations within their relationships due to the same issues? I, for one, have on many occasions.

Just like the fear we all have of discovering something within our bodies, we must also learn to be vigilant regarding our relationships with others. Avoiding or failing to check how someone feels that you work with or live with could lead to severe problems that could fracture or end a relationship or productivity.

Too often, we see people quit their jobs or end a marriage on a whim, or at least we think it was a whim to find out it wasn't as sudden as it would have seemed. If you asked the other party, they would say that they didn't see any warning signs that would cause someone to walk away. The truth is, people exit relationships and jobs way before the actions take effect.

It's common to hide or swallow frustration, bury feelings, and compromise to avoid arguments or discontent. Although this deception is well-meaning, it removes the ability to come to a common ground to clear the air and fix the issues at hand. The frustration and pressure continue to build due to the lack of courage to be forthcoming about the little areas of discontentment and resentment.

So how do we resolve this issue? First, you must be willing to set aside time to communicate what's going on inside and discover what is going on with the other person. Second, you must accept the answer to the questions you ask or voice your concern with that person. Lastly, you must be able to forgive. Forgiveness doesn't take away the hurt or release the other person from your pain, but it does free you and your soul from living in prison within your mind.

Forgiveness is necessary for you to grow into the fullness of yourself so you can share and experience life to its fullest. Don't let the silent killer, deception, cause you to endure additional stress, resentment, anger, bitterness, and restlessness. Take control by taking the time to perform an emotional self-examination on yourself and routinely check up on the people that matter. I'll take this same advice and….do the same. #SPEAK2MYHEART

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