Are You Sitting in Dirty Pee Pants?
PREPARE YOUR EARS TO LISTEN AND YOUR HEART TO RECEIVE AS YOU TAKE IN THE WORDS THAT LOOK TO CHANGE LIVES, RENEW HEARTS, AND OPEN MINDS Have you heard the phrase, "you've made your bed, now lie in it"? In many cases, it's when negative consequences are on the horizon, and a person wants to point out that you must accept the unpleasant reality which you caused yourself. The phrase reminds me of the scene in the movie Talladega Nights when Ricky Bobby asks Texas Ranger how his day at school was. Texas Ranger said that the teacher asked what the Capital of North Carolina was, and his answer was Washington D.C. The teacher informed him that was the wrong answer, and he told her that she had a lumpy butt. The teacher got mad, so his defense was to pee in his pants and refuse to change his clothes. He then says he was sitting in them at the dinner table hours later. He made that decision, and even though it didn't affect the teacher directly, it was still an uncomfortable feeling and smell brought on by a poor decision. As funny as that was, our lives are so indicative of this same scene. People continue to wear their dirty pee pants when they hold on to or blame others and often blame themselves for their life failures, mishaps, and negative consequences. Like Texas Ranger, once you get upset, you tend to lash out, and instead of forgiving or moving on, you make a rash decision and then sit and wallow in your sorrow. You continue to relive, rehash, and remember that person's actions or meditate on why you made the decision you did. During this time of you mulling it over, you continue to broadcast the issue to whoever will listen. I have learned that people tend to do this to gain support, empathy, or sympathy, while others do it to ruin or corrupt a person's character or reputation. In the grand scheme, the only person you hurt is yourself by allowing past actions to ruin plans. The victim or helplessness mentality role is a feeling some take when told, "you made your bed, now lie in it." Once the blame game ensues, you repeatedly hear the one-sided story of how past events, society, politicians, family members, religion, culture, environment, race, creed, gender, and anything else outside of them taking responsibility is the cause. Continuing to remain in this state will break you by bringing on the symptoms of stress. You could experience headaches, muscle tension or pain, and increased fatigue. You can become restless, lack motivation and trust, have an overwhelming feeling, and adopt addictive behaviors by turning to drugs, alcohol, food, or anger while the other person is living their life. Well, I'll let you in on a secret; most people are tired of hearing your same old sad song. If you believe that a person is looking to harm you or you feel a situation isn't proper, leave so you won't have to live in the should have, would have, could have state of mind. It's ok to take ownership of your life by admitting that you didn't have the facts necessary to make a better decision. It's ok to take ownership by acknowledging that you lacked maturity, wisdom, or positive self-worth during that timeframe. It's ok to take ownership by admitting you made a decision based on your trying to please or be like someone else. We all have to consider that we are not who we were minutes, hours, months, or years ago. Yes, we decided and will have to deal with the consequences, but we don't have to stay in that same bed. Leaving or removing anything draining your physical, emotional, spiritual, and mental health is ok. Take some time for inward reflection. Take the opportunity to get assistance from a life coach or a counselor. You could head up your journey by forming a relationship with yourself through meditation or prayer. You might think you deserve better but are your actions and decisions saying the same thing? It's time to get out of those dirty pee pants by releasing the past and making decisions that show you are honest with yourself, trust your intuition, and deserve better! #SPEAK2MYHEART