PREPARE YOUR EARS TO LISTEN AND YOUR HEART TO RECEIVE AS YOU TAKE IN THE WORDS THAT LOOK TO CHANGE LIVES, RENEW HEARTS AND OPEN MINDS
I don't know too many couples that haven't experienced some type of issue within their relationship. If you feel that you haven't, then instead of talking to you, I would like to speak to your other half to see if they would agree. Many times, one person might think that everything is well while the other one isn't feeling the same way. There are many reasons why couples might drift apart, and each situation is unique. I'm willing to bet that inattention creates more distance between couples than say... misbehaving by one spouse or the irreconcilable differences, better defined as "when a couple cannot get along with one another enough to keep the marriage or relationship alive."
So, how do you get back on the same page? Communication is always a great answer but when communication is hampered by kids, work, hobbies, outside activities with friends or family, or just not a shared interest in what the other has going on, what do you do then?
The late Luther Vandross, sang a song "Take You Out," and I think he stated it well just by asking "...can I take you out tonight?" Date nights can provide life to a relationship by showing the other person that you care enough to want to be with them alone and it might provide a needed break from kids, work, and others. Having these nights will allow the both of you to focus on each other, reconnect through communication, and ultimately show each other that you have made each other a priority allowing for the intimacy to return if it was lost in the relationship.
Relationships are similar to a knot as they both require attention and adjustment to stay tight and if left alone, they will naturally, loosen. Just as you take time to feed, clothe, and rest your body every day, you should take the same approach to your relationship to ensure the teamwork, love, trust, intimacy, and nurturing remains tight.
Regular scheduled date nights are both a commitment and an opportunity to spend time with each other. Don't leave it up to one person to make the decision, be involved with the planning. It can be something as small as taking a car ride to visit local sites, maybe taking a walk together, or even taking in a comedy show. It is all about enjoying each other, being present in the moment that will eventually become memories. #SPEAK2MYHEART