PREPARE YOUR EYES TO READ AND YOUR HEART TO RECEIVE AS YOU TAKE IN THE WORDS THAT LOOK TO CHANGE LIVES, RENEW HEARTS, AND OPEN MINDS. At the time of this post, we are in a series on The Door To Expansion Webcast called "Is The Grass Greener on the Other Side?" You can watch the replays via YouTube at Speak 2 My Heart Life Coaching or view the live streams on Sunday at 6 pm CST. We are exploring who has it better in terms of various relationships, including being single, dating, married, divorced, interracial marriages, same-sex marriages, and couples that were divorced and rekindled their love and are now back together again. Your response could be jaded on which side is greener due to where you are in your life and your life experiences. As we peep over the wall into the other lawns, I think we all see the good and bad of each relationship, including being single. The truth is, no matter which side you are on, if you are not giving your best, you will continue to be on the less green side. I group singles in this conversation because, although a single person is technical without a partner, they too must know how to give and accept love, strength, compassion, grace, and empathy for themselves. The commonality in these relationships is that someone saw the best in them to enter into that relationship. Marvin Sapp has a song, "The Best In Me," and he sang, "Can I ask y'all one question? The question is simply this. What did he see? (He saw the best), I can't get no help up in here Because there's some folk in here that people have wrote you off Said you would never amount to anything, Said that you would never end up being anywhere But Myron, tell 'em one more time, what did he see? He saw the best. When momma said, you would never be nothin' when aunties and uncles said you would never amount to anything. When daddy didn't come home anymore, he didn't look at you and say that you weren't going to make it. God looked at you and what did he see, what did he see? He saw the best." This song resonates on so many different levels. We all look for acceptance and validation. When two people enter a relationship, they tend to overlook the negative and focus on the positive of that person; when times get rough, the negative start to outweigh the positive. Relationships are not the only thing this can apply to; it can be for your job, car, house, or pets. When we focus on doing our best, it helps all of our relationships and situations. We will never be perfect, but this should not stop us from seeking out the best within ourselves. Did you know that the heart sends more signals to the brain than the brain sends to the heart? Your heart signals have a significant effect on brain function. So it's essential to take notice of your physical, emotional, and spiritual health. Sometimes you must push the pause button on life to return to the uniqueness, fulfillment, satisfaction, and joy you once felt. We often fall into the trap of blaming others for how we think and what happens to us, but in reality, we need to look at ourselves and not outside. So focus on the best of others and situations, and also take a moment to focus on your best. Your homework is for you to focus, feel, ask, and listen. Place your hand on your heart for 10 seconds and recall a positive feeling or time you've had in your life. As you begin to feel that feeling again, ask your heart, "what would be a better way for me to minimize the stress or pain I am experiencing?" Then pay attention, tune in, listen and reflect on what your heart says to answer your question. #SPEAK2MYHEART
