PREPARE YOUR EARS TO LISTEN AND YOUR HEART TO RECEIVE AS YOU TAKE IN THE WORDS THAT LOOK TO CHANGE LIVES, RENEW HEARTS AND OPEN MINDS. We value and treasure many things in our lives such as houses, money, cars, family members, relationships, athleticism, knowledge, and a slew of other things. If we get down to the brass taxes though, whatever we hold dear and cherish, can be taken from us at any time. When the mighty have fallen, when a loved one has passed, when that car is wrecked, or when the relationship is no longer, the only thing we have left are the memories.
Memories serve as a reminder of something positive or negative that has happened in our past which can affect our present or future situations. A person that quits drinking or doing drugs will always have the memory of that high and can go into a relapse when faced with adversity to get that feeling back. Think about someone that left an unhealthy relationship but they continue to keep going back because of something positive that they got out of it but soon realize the negative things that made them leave.
Can you remember every birthday, anniversary, day, or event? How often have you reminisced with a classmate, friend, or family member and they say "hey, do you remember..." and you say, “no I can't recall that“ or “no, that’s not how I remember it”. The moments that we remember from our past are not always about the biggest things that we have experienced but more times than not it is the littlest, silliest, craziest, and idiotic moments that are etched into our minds.
Everyone deals with death in a variety of ways. The death of a loved one can be overwhelming, frightening, painful but in certain ways a relief knowing a person is not suffering from pain, illness, disease, or a lifestyle anymore. Some of the common emotions people have are denial and isolation, anger, depression, uncontrollable weeping, and bargaining. In the majority of these emotions, weeping is involved, and it's not because we lost the person but the memories with that person.
It makes you ask the question "why do we value people or things more in retrospect than we do in real time?" My grandmother told our family that if we are not giving her flowers while she is living then don't waste your money giving them when she has passed. We need to learn how to appreciate and value the people, jobs, cars, houses and pets that we have in our lives.
Show your gratitude now by engaging someone in conversation or by doing those silly, crazy, and idiotic things that will help etch those memories of being together. So when that time comes and whatever you have is gone, instead of weeping because you didn't do or say something, you can weep and smile and say "I remember..."#SPEAK2MYHEART